Comments on: Unwilling to see ourselves http://charbonniers.org/2009/06/28/unwilling-to-see-ourselves/ A blog on consciousness by Janet Kwasniak Sat, 31 Jul 2010 06:59:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Mariana http://charbonniers.org/2009/06/28/unwilling-to-see-ourselves/#comment-623 Mariana Tue, 30 Jun 2009 06:30:54 +0000 http://charbonniers.org/2009/06/28/unwilling-to-see-ourselves/#comment-623 <p>I remember th4 first thing I notice was how my voice sounded in the recording machine, this does certainly not fit in the "Unwilling to see ourselves". I can't relate this to will at all, I can relate it to listening in a way that others don't (due to physical reasons).<br /> On the other side there are things we purposely avoid to see in order not to feel our self bad about our self. Very interesting topic, I always reflect about outsiders persepsions compared to yours about your own person. I did experiment with people asking what they thought about different aspects of my self, and many answers where incredibly different. But this could be due to oneself acting in life as how it wants the rest of the word to see as like, or given the title of this post..</p> JanetK: The research was about posture/gesture/body-language and not voice. I put in the voice bit and I have to agree with you that hearing from the inside and hearing from the outside are very different and that difference is much of the surprise in a tape recording. When I wrote that, I was thinking of my husband who is surprised by how much he talks and a friend who was surprised with how often he interrupted. Both of them had been teased about their ways of dominating a conversation and so, know that a tape recorder was on, they were trying to avoid being dominant. They really couldn't believe the result. But then they did recognize how they sounded to others once they heard the recordings. So you are right – the voice surprise has nothing to do with the topic and the research. Thanks for pointing this out. I remember th4 first thing I notice was how my voice sounded in the recording machine, this does certainly not fit in the “Unwilling to see ourselves”. I can’t relate this to will at all, I can relate it to listening in a way that others don’t (due to physical reasons).
On the other side there are things we purposely avoid to see in order not to feel our self bad about our self. Very interesting topic, I always reflect about outsiders persepsions compared to yours about your own person. I did experiment with people asking what they thought about different aspects of my self, and many answers where incredibly different. But this could be due to oneself acting in life as how it wants the rest of the word to see as like, or given the title of this post..

JanetK: The research was about posture/gesture/body-language and not voice. I put in the voice bit and I have to agree with you that hearing from the inside and hearing from the outside are very different and that difference is much of the surprise in a tape recording. When I wrote that, I was thinking of my husband who is surprised by how much he talks and a friend who was surprised with how often he interrupted. Both of them had been teased about their ways of dominating a conversation and so, know that a tape recorder was on, they were trying to avoid being dominant. They really couldn’t believe the result. But then they did recognize how they sounded to others once they heard the recordings. So you are right – the voice surprise has nothing to do with the topic and the research. Thanks for pointing this out.

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